As someone who has always been controlled with my eating, I’ve turned to food to cope with the stress and boredom and predictably, have gained a few pounds. This extra weight wouldn’t even show to others, but I can tell, and I’ve struggled with my feelings towards it. So I’ve recently been trying to make some changes that may seem unexpected.
I’m ditching the guilt. Lockdown has brought its fair share of angst — that we’re not doing enough for our elderly relatives, for our children or maybe for the community. So the one thing we really should not feel remorse over is our eating, and any weight-gain.
If you’re feeling guilty, I’m here to tell you to stop right now! In these strange times we need to be kind to ourselves and stop the voices in our head which say we’re ‘too fat’, or we ‘have no willpower’. Easy to say, but not so simple in practice. It’s something I’m working on with myself, and with my clients.
I’m a fan of a popular ‘anti-diet’ movement called Intuitive Eating, the principles of which are useful to follow for anyone struggling with their weight, body image and feelings around food. The idea is based on a best-selling book of the same name, published in the mid-90s, and is now gaining momentum with social media. It has real resonance currently, when we’re expected to emerge from lockdown like butterflies.
The end goal is not about weight loss — though that might happen — but instead, knowing about the foods and movement to include to make your body feel good. It’s about focussing on health, not size and rejecting the idea we need to look a certain way.
There are ten principles, but here are a few key ones that I’ve found most useful:
1. Make peace with food:
Categorising foods as “good” or “bad” only increases our guilt and feelings of poor self-worth. We all know a biscuit isn’t as nutrient-dense as a carrot; but deny yourself that biscuit, and you’re more likely to crave it, binge on it, feel guilty and the cycle continues. So next time you fancy the biscuit/slice of cake/piece of challah eat it! My golden rule though is to sit down to eat; no furtive shovelling behind the cupboard door — enjoy it!
2. Honour your hunger:
Try and really listen to your body and respond to your hunger cues. When you go to eat, ask yourself “am I hungry, or am I bored/sad/stressed?” If the answer is yes to hunger — eat! You may also find this idea liberating if you’re someone who feels forced to eat at recognised mealtimes, despite not being hungry. If you’re waking up later in lockdown you may then find it might suit you better to not eat breakfast at all; or maybe enjoy a late breakfast, skip lunch and instead eat a snack in the afternoon.
3.Feel your fullness:
Stop eating when you’re full and take time to notice what your hunger level is. With more time to spend over your meals at the moment, you may be more able to pause mid-meal to think about how the food tastes and what your current hunger level is. There’s nothing wrong with eating a big bowl of pasta if that’s what you want, but the idea is that you listen to your cues and stop eating when you’ve had enough.
4. Respect your body:
Make peace with the body you have. This one can be challenging — who truly ‘loves’ their body? Our weight and body shape is often so tied up in our self-esteem. However since the Coronavirus outbreak we really do have reason to start being thankful for our bodies — either for fighting off the virus if we’ve contracted it, or for protecting us from it. Despite our negative thoughts, our bodies are working hard for us, fighting, protecting and keeping us going.
Whilst Intuitive Eating is anti-diet, it is not anti-nutrition, and nor am I. Working through the principles, the idea is you gradually learn to intuit what your body needs, and how it feels good. Though there are no right or wrong foods. You might find that after a few days of eating only processed food, you don’t feel great; but with a variety of fresh produce and minimally processed foods you can enjoy a bowl of ice cream without any negative thoughts or emotions creeping in.
It’s definitely a work in progress, but I know for me at least, one worth trying.
Laura Southern practises as www.londonfoodtherapy.com and is currently seeing clients remotely. For more information email Info@londonfoodtherapy.com
