It feels strange to think about dating when the world is in such devastating unrest. In fact, I considered whether I should even continue my matchmaking duties during this time.

However, a wise woman told me that nothing should get in the way of celebration, and if my matchmaking is the catalyst for simchas, then matchmaking is what I shall I do.

After all, let’s not forget that amid all the horror this past month, there have also been moments of occasional joy in the form of the makeshift weddings that have somehow taken place in the middle of this terrifying war.

Plus, of course, Jewish singletons are still being told by their parents to “hurry, I want grandkids!” and “these are your prime years, get on with it!”

Meanwhile, have you heard the age-old saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans”? Well, there are people out there, let me tell you, who have created five-year dating plans.

Now, envisioning where you want to be professionally in five years’ time is arguably more straightforward than where you may want to be romantically. Not for nothing am I always reminding you how freeing it feels to surrender the idea that you are in total control of your dating life.

However, and I am playing devil’s advocate here a bit, I wonder if those in the business of planning have more luck in the dating game.

Being intentional and direct about what you are seeking can’t be wholly negative, can it? Does planning really remove the romantic elements we need for a movie- style meet cute?

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Love isn't always random

Perhaps, but it would also be a disservice to the planner who’s successful bagged a partner to dismiss how they did it, how they planned to meet their soulmate and did just that. I’m thinking here of two former female colleagues who worked together on a mega West End show.

They made a pact that before rehearsals began and the show went into production, they’d go on a series of dates.

Those dates became nothing less than part of their production schedule and before long they were both heading out for romantic liaisons every Tuesday and Thursday.

They were on a mission to meet someone during a short and set period of time. And, lo and behold, they succeeded. Both women are now happily married!

This approach to dating may not be for everyone, but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. Dating can be strategic, say I.

So, if you are looking at your year ahead and, like my former colleagues you anticipate a busy work period, consider putting together a dating strategy.

Sometimes, if you want something you have to hatch a plan and make it happen for yourself.