By, Rosa Doherty
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Despite a fulfilling career and a circle of friends, 56-year-old Deborah admits to feelings of loneliness.
The south Londoner, who requested that her real name not be used, says that people of her age group are often overlooked by the community.
She said: "I'm a qualified therapist who, after getting divorced and with no family of my own, suddenly found myself in a similar situation to others who are lonely.
"I'm not particularly involved with the community religiously and don't want to waste time and energy on something that's not to my liking.
"Unfortunately, people in their forties and fifties don't get much support compared to those who are younger and older, and there are very few activities out there for us.
People in their forties and fifties don't get much support
"There's no social platform where people can meet and interact."
Deborah, who lives in south-west London, feels that more could be done to connect single people in her age group who are still looking for a partner. She said: "Loneliness is a big part of my life because I don't have a special person to share it with.
"I'm sick of JDate and other websites where women are treated as a commodity to please men's expectations.
"However busy people pretend to be, there's a need to interact, and it would be a shame to have to 'marry out', but that is what me and a lot of my friends have to consider.
"I'm feeling isolated within a community that focuses on the vulnerable elderly, a wonderful thing, but it highlights the fact that so many aren't included in social and cultural gatherings.
"It could be wonderful if the Jewish community can take this into account when organising local and national events. If I was not so busy I'd start something myself because it is obviously needed.
"It's a misconception to think those of us who lead busy lives can't feel isolated and lonely, we're just as vulnerable despite having many commitments."