Unexpected love: Chai’s group support

Making the initial call to Chai is often one of the hardest steps to take – a brave decision at a time of great uncertainty. Those reaching out do so knowing they will receive specialised support and expert care, but what they don’t expect is something equally powerful, the love that emerges through Chai’s group support.

Facing a cancer diagnosis, personally or through a loved one, brings changes, challenges and questions, but it also brings opportunities to find strength in others. Through Chai’s group support sessions, Chai’s clients find not only comfort, but also connection. These relationships, built on shared experiences and mutual understanding, provide a source of strength and support that continues beyond the group setting.

Zippora Galpert, Chai’s clinical lead, explains: “In our bereavement groups, people who have lost loved ones come together to share their stories, process their emotions and navigate the complexities of grief. Many join seeking solace but leave with much more – lifelong friendships, camaraderie and a renewed sense of belonging.

“These connections often begin in the group setting, as participants bond over their shared experiences and offer one another empathy and encouragement. Over time, these relationships blossom into something even more powerful, with many members choosing to meet outside of Chai long after their group sessions have ended. Whether it’s for a coffee, a walk, or simply a phone call to check in, these ongoing connections provide comfort and a sense of community that extends way beyond the group.”

Across Chai’s many group support services a similar camaraderie flourishes. “The unexpected love that emerges from these groups becomes part of the healing process,” Zippora adds. “Love that is developed through friendship, care and experiences in common, is incredibly powerful.”

Chai’s Men’s Group provides a unique space for men to share the challenges they face as patients, caregivers or partners. The bonds that form in this group are built on trust, vulnerability and shared strength, creating mutual support and respect.

The BRCA groups offer another powerful example of connection and understanding. Chai facilitates two distinct groups: one for those who are navigating the impact of a cancer diagnosis and carry the BRCA gene mutation and another for BRCA carriers who have not been diagnosed with cancer but face the emotional and practical complexities of managing their increased genetic risk. These groups provide a space where participants can openly share their concerns and decisions with others who truly understand what they are experiencing, such as facing difficult treatment options, or exploring preventative measures or how to tell family.

“We need different types of love at different stages of our lives,” says Zippora. “The love that forms in these groups is unique because it comes from people who truly relate to one another. There is no need to explain, no fear of judgment, everyone just ‘gets it’. It’s a bond that carries them through one of the most difficult times of their lives and that’s something truly special.”

In Chai’s group settings, there’s no need for pretence – everyone comes as they are, bringing their emotions and vulnerabilities. The love that grows from these shared experiences transcends the challenges of cancer and grief, offering not just support but renewed hope. As Chai continues to expand its specialised services, it’s clear these groups are doing more than just providing support – they are proving that even in life’s most challenging moments, love can be found in the most unexpected places.

For more information on Chai’s specialised support services, call Charlotte Hildebrand on 020 8457 3238 or see chaicancercare.org.

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