There is more than one way to celebrate a bar/batmitzvah
December 19, 2023 17:48The transition from child to adult in Judaism happens over a person’s Hebrew birthday. You can calculate a Hebrew birthday by the date and time of birth - your rabbi or rebbetzen can assist you with this.
On a girl’s 12th (Hebrew) birthday, and a boy’s 13th, they automatically become bat or barmitzvah through no action or event. Nevertheless, it is a significant milestone in a person’s life and, given the extraordinary opportunity they now have to fulfil their Godly mission, it is one that deserves celebration. That said, there are no set laws on how a bar or batmitzvah should be celebrated.
Some children may need additional support or do not want a large event. The United Synagogue has put together suggestions for a meaningful and welcoming simchah for people with varying abilities and challenges, which you can find at theus.org.uk/inclusion.
Batmitzvah options
Barmitzvah options
Other ideas
To find out more from the United Synagogue, go to theus.org.uk
Article by, Laurie Maurer, United Synagogue educator