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‘Take it from me. Dying is a full-time business. No time for a lap of honour’

Norman Lebrecht recalls the conversations with his friend, the distinguished theatre and opera director Jonathan Miller has died aged 85

November 27, 2019 18:54
Sir Jonathan Miller, who has died at age 85
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The first thing you’d see in Jonathan Miller was self-doubt. “I should have stuck to being a doctor,” he’d say, before hanging up your coat. Or: “The theatre’s pretty worthless, isn’t it?” 

We both got banned from the Metropolitan Opera — he for disrespecting divas and I for other iconoclasms — and we recognised in each other the eternal outsider, as well as the introspection. The son of a psychiatrist, he wore neuroses on his sleeve and never lost his sense of wonder at the diversity of the human condition.

“I went into medicine out of cold-hearted curiosity about how the brain worked,” he’d reflect. “I suspect theatre is morally — no, intellectually — less worthy.” 

His father, Emanuel Miller, was a pioneer in child psychiatry with a keen interest in social reform. His mother, Betty Miller, was a witty novelist, a friend of Olivia Manning. “My mother was bored with her Jewish origins,” he’d tell me, “my father was much more immersed in it.”