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Shul music has given me a taste for melancholia

Every synagogue has a different approach, but I’m grateful I grew up with a choir and organ

April 3, 2024 08:04
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Of all the things that crossed my mind before having children, one that didn’t was that I would never again get to choose the music on long car journeys. Sleepless nights? Par for the course. Less freedom? No problem. But listening to the relentlessly bouncy Meghan Trainor’s Better When I’m Dancin’ and other such saccharine pop on repeat, ad nauseam? Now that’s a new circle of hell I’d never envisaged.

This might not bother most people, but I must disclose at this point that I am also a music journalist, and a discernment for music naturally comes with the job. Gone are coastal drives to the haunting folk-rock of Fleet Foxes, the wistful indie-folk of Basia Bulat, the contemplative poeticism of Leonard Cohen, the introspective alt-rock of Thom Yorke. Chopin’s Nocturnes or Faure’s Requiem? Forget it. Now it’s Katy Perry, Taylor Swift, Bruno Mars or, worse still, the exact same nursery-rhyme playlists we had on repeat for our first born. Music so purposefully joyful it feels like you’ve ingested all the Haribo in one sitting. Children, it turns out, like happy music to which they can dance.

I blame my melancholic tastes on the music that I grew up hearing at shul. Specifically, that which I heard during the High Holidays. Long after leaving the building, I’d hum those tunes. So full of yearning and emotion.

Different shuls do music differently, as I would discover when we moved – a fact that Geraldine Auerbach’s From Our Lips festival of synagogue music is currently celebrating. But it’s said that our most formative years for acquiring music taste are in our childhood, and I spent plenty of mine at West London Synagogue and Edgware District Reform, with its lush four-part choir and organ. And while the Beatles, the Beach Boys and Abba made their way onto my parents’ stereo, among the most memorable musical moments of my childhood were the deeply moving and spiritual services we attended.