My child is trans. I feel blessed

When I was just 14 weeks pregnant, the ultrasound sonographer concluded that our eldest child was a girl. At birth, we gave her an Israeli girl’s name, Tali. Tali’s body indicated that she was a girl but her mind, heart and soul were not female, and are not.

Now, as a 27-year-old, her pronoun is not “she” or “he” but “they”. Tali is now Tal — a unisex Israeli name and they do not identify either as a woman nor as a man but as a person whose gender is non-binary.

As I responded this week to the public consultation on the Gender Recognition Act for England and Wales, I was tearful. My tears were tears of protection, loss but also pride. This consultation closes next week and it revisits the 2004 Act which enabled basic rights for trans people. It considers how to make the process of gender recognition less bureaucratic and invasive and how to include broader definitions of gender.

Our views of gender are influenced by deep-rooted cultural and religious assumptions. Jews tend to read the Creation story through a gender-binary prism — God made a man and then a woman. But, my colleague, student rabbi Lev Taylor, points to rabbinic interpretations that overturn these assumptions. It’s unclear that Adam was the first man — as the Hebrew word “Adam” acts as a noun, not a name. It’s from “adamah”, meaning earth. Adam, was an “earthling”. Another interpretation of the Hebrew text suggests that the original human being had one body with two sets of genitalia and two faces, a type of “primordial androgyne”.