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Why an intermarried rabbi can be 'a gift' to a community

Rabbi Denise Handlarski's approach to mixed couples is different from the common doom-and-gloom view

December 27, 2022 12:44
Rabbi Denise Handlarski from Toronto
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While Rabbi Denise Handlarski was visiting Limmud, her home in Toronto would have been lit up with Christmas lights.

Her husband of 12 years was a “very secular Christian… who never goes to church” but who likes to mark Christmas, she explained.

When they first got married she “didn’t like the idea of Christmas lights” and they settled for decorating a small tree which would be planted afterwards; this was the first year she agreed to lights.

But there was “no way” a tiny tree and lights would compete for their two children’s allegiance when their home was generally“an epicentre of Jewish learning and fun”.