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When cuddles only end in tears

May 27, 2010 14:00
Babies may feel rewarded for their crying if parents pat them, argues one children’s sleep specialist

ByAlex Kasriel, Alex Kasriel

3 min read

'How's the sleep?" This is often the first question people ask the parent of a new baby. They know - particularly if they are parents themselves - how stressful tending to the needs of an infant in the middle of the night can be.

Pregnant pop star Dannii Minogue recently posted a picture of her first baby gift - a babygro emblazoned with the slogan "Sleep is for the weak" across its front - on her Twitter page. She is already gearing herself up for the night-time activities she and her newborn will experience after the birth in July.

A baby who keeps you up night after night is an absolute drain and can make parents tearful and irritable, even leading to postnatal depression. Who wouldn't be desperate if they were denied more than three consecutive hours sleep night after night? Add to that the worry that you are not raising your baby correctly and you can understand why mothers get emotional.

But Mandy Gurney of the Millpond Children's Sleep Clinic in north London says that people should not associate a wakeful baby with being a bad parent.