The cringiest piece of dating advice is that there are plenty more fish in the sea. It’s overused and then some. It’s outdated (pardon the pun), unhelpful and when it comes to dating Jewish, arguably untrue guidance when a relationship comes to an end and you’re flung back into the dating whirlwind.

Dating Jewish already means your looking in a restricted pool of people as you’re eliminating a high proportion of the population based on their peoplehood. Throw in another limiting factor such as location and you’re likely to get a notification on JSwipe to let you know that “we cannot find users near you”.

In the strictly Orthodox world of shidduchs it is more normal for introductions to be made internationally and I’ve heard many a story of people flying to Sweden, Israel or Amsterdam and back to London in one day for a first date. So how does that fare for us in the secular Jewish dating pool (or should I say puddle at this point)?

Well, if you adjust your settings to worldwide on JSwipe I can tell you for free that you’ll never complete the app and there truly are eligible single Jews all around the globe. Of course, this sounds promising — Heathrow, here I come — but are you prepared to venture into the world of long-distance dating?

My rule that a first date should be a maximum 90 minutes long is completely thrown out of the window. Because either of you could have travelled up to 24 hours for this very first date, the pace is ramped up as time physically together is so limited and there is a pressure and intensity one doesn’t have to consider when you both live in north-west London.

If you are a spontaneous person who feels nauseous at the thought of planning then long-distance dating could be incredibly problematic. Scheduling trips and blocking out time when visiting each other’s hometowns is an absolute necessity if you stand a chance of making this work.

Then one day, if all goes well, you’ll reach the crossroads of deciding which one of you is going to pack up your life and move to a new country to take your relationship to the next level. One of you is going to have to make many sacrifices — leaving family, friends, a job (potentially career) and your comfort zone — to move and become fully part of someone else’s life.

Then there are a host of other obstacles that you need to consider. The admin is hectic (we’re talking visas), there will be cultural differences (yes, we may all be Jewish but an American and a Brit are very different), there are potentially language barriers and more.

As I’ve settled into the role of matchmaker, I feel qualified enough to tell you this. I’d love to be able to promise clients that their soulmate is in their catchment area (for my clients that’s mostly Bushey to Hampstead Garden Suburb), but sometimes we do need to look a little further afield to find the real deal.

Dating someone who is not a born-and- bred north-west Londoner could be your key to finding love. So, this new year, I recommend taking distance off your dealbreaker list in 2023 and just see who in the world you match with.