The distorted view Israelis seem to have of European Jewry, and diaspora life, has become alarming. While Hamas rockets fly over their heads, Israelis seem almost obsessed by the idea that European Jews are facing annihilation.

This came to the fore last month following the Paris terror attacks. In Israel, terror attacks are almost routine, and citizens take pride in their stoicism and defiance. But a rare attack on Parisian Jews was taken as a signal that Jewish life in France was over. The Israeli Prime Minister told French Jewry that they had a home in Israel, implying it was time to pack up and leave. Although just 1 per cent of French Jewry made aliyah last year, Israelis are apparently expecting a flood of refugees.

They don't seem to think much more of British Jewry's future. I have lost count of how many Israelis have asked me about "the antisemitism" that apparently dominates our lives here, and implored me to make aliyah before it's "too late". Comparisons to the 1930s are rife. This summer, I could only laugh as an Israeli relative phoned repeatedly from her bomb shelter to make sure that we were safe from "the antisemites".

Meanwhile, dubious surveys seeking to show Brits are antisemites and the "Liberate Stamford Hill" march against "Jewification" are reported in detail in Israel; there is little in-depth coverage of other diaspora Jewry issues. The million Israelis abroad rarely integrate with the local Jewish communities and Israelis understand little about daily reality in the diaspora.

Of course Jewish life can be problematic in Europe, particularly on the continent. We face challenges regarding Muslim extremism, assimilation, and anti-Zionism. The problem is that Israel's view of the diaspora is so one-dimensional that it is actually threatening the fabric of Israeli-diaspora relations.

Most Israelis abroad don’t integrate with local communities

Netanyahu's aliyah call might have been popular with Israelis but the reaction in the European diaspora was extraordinary. There was widespread feeling that he was undermining French Jews, talking about them as potential Israelis at the very moment when they needed to emphasise their Frenchness. For many, there was unease – and anger, too - at the implication that life outside of Israel was temporary, and less meaningful .

This is not unprecedented. As far back as 1950, when Israel's UN ambassador Abba Eban called for American Jews to make mass aliyah, David Ben-Gurion was forced to publicly concede that "the state of Israel represents and speaks only on behalf of its own citizens … We, the people of Israel, have no desire and no intention to interfere in any way with the internal affairs of Jewish communities abroad." His own call for American Jews to make aliyah, "permanently or temporarily", was rather tame.

Nevertheless, times have changed. In the intervening 65 years, it has become clear that the majority of Western Jews are here by choice, and not going to move to Israel. Our own community in Britain is more confident, better served and integrated than ever. Whatever you think of David Cameron, he is a friend of the Jews, with several philosemites in his Cabinet. There is much that Israelis could learn from the way we practise Judaism - if they would only look.

The diaspora has grown up, and Israel's relationship with us needs to grow up, too. If we are to remain one people - and, frankly, if Israel is to continue asking diaspora Jews for their political and financial support, it's time Israelis stop regarding us as besieged future refugees, and start taking us seriously. A little respect would go a long way.