Parashah of the Week: Vayetze

The result of the mandrake appears rather dramatic for Leah, whose fertility had appeared to come to an end a short while before, bears Issachar, Zebulun and the family’s only daughter, Dinah, in quick succession.

The challenge of infertility is, of course, known from the previous story of Abraham and Sarah. In Parashat Vayetze too, Rachel expresses her anguish: “Give me children or I shall die” (Genesis 30:1).

While the declaration has a context and many interpretations, it goes to the heart of the assumed Jewish duty to have children, arising from God’s instruction to Adam and Eve in Genesis 1:26 and the legendary strength of Jewish family life.

Indeed procreation is a Divine desire as the prophet Isaiah (45:18) reminds the listener: “God did not create [the world] a waste; but formed it for habitation.”

In a poll by Study Fields of a thousand Londoners aged between 18 and 34, it was reported that a quarter of them had decided against ever having children. The reasons included fears about the state of the world and its growing population as well as concerns for self and for financial capacity.

Often when I have the privilege to conduct a chupah, I remark that the wedding is merely the beginning of a marital journey which is an affirmation of faith in the future. The decision to have children is a similar gesture but as the father of four and the grandfather of seven (soon to be eight), I thoroughly recommend it.