“Some of them were my friends already, but some of them I didn’t know before. But through doing this together, I have made friends for life.”
Volunteers packing candles at Jo's dining table (Photo: Jo Woolfe)[Missing Credit]
Each pack contains two tealights, a card with a photo of a hostage, their name and age and a prayer for them and also for those who have been released. On another card, there is a prayer for Israel, Shabbat prayers and a picture of the faces of all the hostages.
Jo, who is half Israeli, changes the age of a hostage on the card if they have had a birthday, and if a hostage is released, the card will be changed from dark blue to light blue and the candles in their pack are yellow. “Hopefully, all of the cards will become light blue soon and all the candles will be yellow,” said Jo.
The event planner first came up with the idea of people lighting Shabbat candles in their own homes for the hostages when she helped set up the Shabbat table for the hostages at JW3 at the end of October.
“There were blue candles for Israel at the Shabbat table, and we decided to give them away to visitors. After the Shabbat table closed, I really felt I needed to do something, so I decided to carry on with the candles.”
For the first couple of weeks, the mum of two packed 600 sets, but demand quickly grew, both locally and globally, and Jo estimates that some 100,000 pairs of candles are now being distributed worldwide every week.
Candles for the Youbetheirlight project on Jo Woolfe's dining table (Photo: Jo Woolfe)[Missing Credit]
“Packing the candles is quite therapeutic since we can’t be on our phones or scrolling through social media as we’re having to use our hands.”
On the wall of her living room is a whiteboard, and sometimes, Jo writes the name of a person who has recently died. “When my grandfather passed away, we wrote his name on the board, and we packed in his merit. If we find out that a hostage has tragically been killed, we pack in their merit.”
The thinking behind the project is encapsulated by a phrase which is written on every pack, #Youbetheirlight. “It’s about lighting for the hostages on their behalf because they can’t. We heard that one of the hostages, Omer Shem Tov, saves up the salt from the pita the hostages are given to make kiddush. It’s about lighting for them until, please God, we don’t have to anymore.”
Earlier this year, Jo went out to Israel, where she visited the Hostages and Missing Families Forum headquarters in Tel Aviv. “I took every hostage card with me, and when I met a family of a hostage, I was able to give them the card of their relative. They were so grateful and humbled.”
Shabbat candles from the Youbetheirlight project for guests at a Barmitzvah[Missing Credit]
Describing the centre as “an unbelievable place”, Jo says: “It means that people aren’t sitting at home by themselves; they have support, counselling and meals.”
The project is reliant on individual donations, with each pack costing 31p to produce and 2,000 sets around £600. “Some people sponsor a week in memory of a loved-one,” says Jo.
While the idea of charging people for the candles has been discussed, Jo is reluctant to go down this route. “I don’t want people not to take them because they can’t or don’t want to pay. In the meantime, I plan to carry on with this project until all the hostages come home.”
To donate to the #Youbetheirlight project, email: Joannewoolfe@me.com
